Monday, December 30, 2013

Rejoice in the Good of 2013





 
As I contemplated what I should write in this last post of 2013, I had to happily consider what a blessing it is look forward to a new year, and a fresh start.  Fresh starts give us a clean slate and a perspective free of mess and clutter.  However, even as we consider the year ahead of us, I think it would be a great loss to go into that year without embracing, and carrying with us, the many joys we experienced during the past twelve months.  So, as you look forward to 2014, take those great memories with you!

What did you experience during 2013 that warmed your heart and filled your life with love, laughter, hope, and gratitude?  Before the ball drops in Times Square tomorrow night, make a list of some of 2013's highlights.  Tuck it into your journal or purse and keep it for ready reference because, as you and I both know, 2014 will sometimes challenge our sense of appreciation.  Having a quick reference to past blessings will allow us to find hope and peace as we recall the people and occasions that have graced our lives.

As I took the week of Christmas off from writing, I found myself mulling over what I would post today, and this idea of reviewing the blessings of 2013 came to mind.  I think it is a valuable suggestion, not because I came up with it, but for several other reasons:
  •   First, it is a great way to end the year on a positive note. 
  •   Second, it will give us a period of pause in which memories of positive experiences will lend  calm and joy to our life.  
  •   Third, the very act of recalling and recording good memories calms and regulates our heart rhythms and helps to stabilize our blood pressure.  Just think of the positive effect the daily practice of gratitude could have on your life if you did something similar each day! For that reason, I found the suggestion to the right very interesting: 
This was apparently posted for last year, but it is just as appropriate for 2014.  A year from now, as you review your blessings, it will provide a ready made time capsule of the many joys you encountered along your path, and the events that laced richness and love into your life.  The only fault I find with the suggestion, as given, is that the jar will prove far too small.  While you may want to start with a quart jar, just for convenience, look for a very large jar--one of those old fashioned pickle type jars.  Check in with your local school cafeteria.  They may be able to supply one.  I think you'll find you're gonna need it!!
Have a blessed time reviewing the joys of 2013! 


Tuesday, December 24, 2013

"Oh, Holy Night"


                                   At this beautiful time of year, we find ourselves focused on our Savior, Jesus Christ.


During this meaningful interlude we allow ourselves to contemplate His birth and life, and the events surrounding His holy arrival into the world:  the prophecies of Old Testament revelators, Gabriel’s visit to Mary, the instruction given to Joseph to “fear not” to take Mary for his wife, the humble birth, the choirs of angels, and the new star that guided the Wise Men from the East, all give us pause as we realize there never was another occasion in the history of the earth that was blessed by so much heavenly orchestration.  It can only be with reverence and awe that we consider this marvelous event, and recall it as we read the records preserved for us in the books of Matthew and Luke  (Matt 1:18-25; Matt 2;  Luke1:26-2:20).

What child is this?  He is called by many names, each significant to His mission; each meaningful to our knowledge of how well He loves us, how He has blessed us, and is blessing us: Jehovah; Jesus The Christ; The Creator; Our Elder Brother; God; The Savior; Emmanuel (God is with us); The Prince of Peace; The Lamb; The King; Messiah; Rabboni (my Master); Our Salvation; The Most Blessed and Holy One; The Most High God; Lord of Lord and King of Kings….

I know that, tonight, many of us will be reading the account of Christ's birth, and sharing this sacred story with our families.  As we ponder His coming into the world, especially on this holiest of nights, it is the perfect time to consider all the gifts He gave to us.  We will, no doubt, also ponder the simple gifts we might give to Him: remembering Him and committing to make room for Him in our lives, every day; expressing gratitude to Him for all the roles He has played and is playing in our eternal happiness and salvation; trusting Him and His promises;  saying “yes” to doing things His way; knowing Him better and following Him more closely.  

He asks so little of us, only to trust Him: “follow me” (Matt 4:19); and help others to know Him:  “Feed my lambs…Feed my sheep” (John 21:15-16).   We give to those we love from the abundance of our hearts because we desire their happiness.  At this time of year, it seems we make an extra effort to give to our loved ones the gifts they have requested, at least insofar as we have the capacity to give.  Would we do any less for our Savior?  Would we deny Him His simple requests?  On this Holy Night, surrounded by the beauty of His spirit, and filled with gratitude for His love, it is something to consider! 


Saturday, December 21, 2013

Welcome to Winter--Celebrating "The Light" During the Darkest Time of Year

In case you spaced it, today is Winter Solstice, the shortest, most light-lacking day of the year.  I couldn't help but think how appropriate it is that at this, the darkest time of year, we celebrate the birth of The Light of the World.  How symbolic that we remember the birth of He who would save us from darkness, and through His example and teachings, light our way.  "I am the light of the world," He said.  "He that followeth me shall not walk in darkness, but shall have the light of life"  (John 8:12).



A friend was telling me, a day or two ago, that she dislikes winter.  It's too dark; the days are so short, the weather so cold and dismal.  Life is often like that, too.  We feel almost like an outcast, out in the cold, seeking the warmth and light of hope.  At the risk of sounding depressed (which I am not), I want to dedicate this post to all who are feeling, or have ever felt, that life--at least in some moments--was more darkness than light, more despair than hope.

As we pass through hardships our faith in life and in God is often tried.  We long for the security we once had in those longer days of summer, when the land was fruitful and life was constantly reminding us that God was watching over His earth and over our welfare.  In the darker days of our troubles, we struggle, wondering what is happening to our plans, our hopes and our dreams.  How could a loving God allow us to suffer so much hurt when we are trying our best, every day, to follow the Savior and honor His sacrifices?   I know I have wrestled with these questions, and have sometimes felt my heart break as I have wondered why my dreams have been dashed, and my plans come to naught.  They were good dreams, they were honorable plans.  What was wrong with them?  If nothing, then why has God not honored and prospered them?  If Christ is our Savior, and we are following His example and living a good life, why can we not be spared such heartache?  Isn't it reasonable and excusable to doubt, to question our faith when we are walking in these mists of darkness and discouragement?

I have been reading a book called Byzantium*, and enjoying it very much.  Just a few pages into this lengthy tale, I came across these words:  "Never doubt in the darkness that which you believed in the light."   On our best days, when our prospects were bright, and our hopes were high, we held to the belief that God was guiding us; that Christ's example was worth following; that our life had meaning and purpose.  Are those beliefs less true now that we are passing through the darkness of a long, cold winter; or are we just forgetting what it was like to travel in the more brilliant light of His obvious watch care?  

I was blessed to receive some significant teachings, first from my family, and later from the church I joined.  Those teaching are that God will provide, and my trials are valuable experiences that can enlarge my faith as I continue to seek and follow the Light of Christ, no matter how dark and discouraging my situation might be.  If His teachings were true when I followed Him in my happiest days, they are still true in the darkness of a cold December.

I am so grateful for the birth and life of the Savior, the Light of the World.  How joyful that on this, the darkest day of the year, I look forward to celebrating His nativity.  Though I may pass through many winters during my lifetime, I am blessed to focus on Him as I approach each of these periods. I know that because of Him, I will pass through all those dismal days with His light to guide me. As I was taught in childhood, God will provide.  The Savior is always available to strengthen me, and though I may not see Him as clearly during these periods of darkness, He is still there, walking beside me--in His scriptures, in His teachings, in His example--perhaps in His very being.  He is always relevant and needed.  So, I encourage you to "never doubt in the darkness that which you believed in the light."   Truth is truth, no matter the time of year, and His Truth will provide the light you need, no matter how dark the day may seem!

*Stephen R. Lawhead, Byzantium, (Harper Collins, New York, 1996) 25.

Thursday, December 19, 2013

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Monday, December 16, 2013

Heavy Weights and Unexpected Blessings

Isn't it wonderful when unexpected blessings come to sweeten life, and bring us joy?  When they come one after another over a period of days, that's a little awe inspiring!   I just had that kind of long weekend, and I don't mind telling you, I'm grateful for the unusual peace and joy it has given me.

I am like everyone else.  I have situations in my life that challenge me, even on my best days.  By Thursday of last week I was feeling pretty down.  Something was weighing heavily on me, and I really didn't know what to do about it--still don't.  I was feeling overwhelmed and a little defeated.   I really prayed to know what to do, and longed for a clear answer that even I could discern.  Nothing seemed to be coming, and I was getting fairly discouraged, but I kept praying.

On Friday my son was here for the afternoon and able to stay with my husband, so I went shopping for some Christmas gifts.  I found everything I needed--wonderful stuff by the way--at between 50% and 80% off--a great boon to a tight budget!  Keep in mind that this kind of thing rarely happens to me.

On Saturday I woke up to an empty fruit bowl.  Fruit is a favorite, and I found myself wishing I could sink my teeth into a crunchy apple or juicy pear.  Within the hour a box of pears was delivered to my door--a gift from a son and his wife.  Later that afternoon, my husband showered and dressed, and things pretty well under control, the phone rang.  It was a neighbor asking if I could possibly join them for a visit to Salt Lake City.  They were meeting friends for an early dinner at The Roof Restaurant, a tour of Temple Square, and then the annual Christmas Concert by the Mormon Tabernacle Choir.  One of the party was ill and couldn't use his ticket.  Would I like it?  Would I!!  I had 10 minutes to arrange for my husband and to get ready.  My daughter graciously consented to take her dad for a few hours, and then my son would pick him up and stay with him until I returned.

What a joyful late afternoon and evening I had with my neighbors and their friends.  The conversation was great, the food was fabulous and very gourmet, and the concert was beautiful.  There we were about 10 rows back from the stage in the Latter-day Saint Conference Center.  There was The Spirit of Christmas (British actor John Rhys-Davies), dressed in a green fur-trimmed robe, with a crown of holly on his head.  There was the character of Charles Dickens, conversing with him as they both sailed over the audience, suspended by wires, engrossed in conversation about the things that really matter, and what Christmas really means.  "How can the poor masses be so happy in their poverty?" asks Dickens.  Indeed, how can happiness be had when necessities are barely being met, or not being met at all?  The Spirit of Christmas answers the query:  It is love.  Love for others, thinking of others, caring for others.  Happiness comes as we come to know and exercise the true spirit of the season.   Thus comes Dickens inspiration for his classic novel, A Christmas Carol.

The Mormon Tabernacle Choir was incomparable, as always.  Guest soloist Deborah Voigt's clear operatic voice was perfect, her renderings entertaining and joy filled.  The Christmas lights on Temple Square, the spirit of the holiday, the majestic temple, the kindness of my neighbors and their friends, and the courtesy of other visitors to downtown Salt Lake, all made for a wonderful evening, and a much appreciated--if unexpected--break from my caregiver duties!

After church on Sunday my husband and I ate lunch and, "My goodness" I thought, "something chocolate would really taste good about now."  But I had nothing chocolate in the house. Ah, me!
I had to drop some things off at my neighbors, so off I went to relieve my mind of the craving.  Guess what--she and her husband had just made chocolate chip cookies.  Before I knew it, I was holding a plate of the little goodies in my hand.  Back at home I enjoyed two of them, then took a nap.  I'd been up late on both Friday and Saturday nights, and I really needed some sleep.  When I awoke from my rest, I found myself craving a fresh orange--probably my body's way of seeking equilibrium after the chocolate attack!  I hadn't been on my feet five minutes when the doorbell rang.  It was a neighbor delivering a Christmas gift.  You guessed it--fresh oranges!

On Monday morning at 9a.m. my daughter called.  It was cold out--below freezing--and her van wouldn't start.  Could I possibly come by to get the kids and take them to school?  I was more than happy to do it.  On the way my granddaughter asked when would I be babysitting them again after school.  I didn't know, and asked her why was she asking.  "I like coming to your house, grandma."
"I love you coming to my house,"  I responded.  "I think it's wonderful that we get to live just around the corner from one another."
"I'm the one who first saw our house when it was for sale,"  piped up my grandson, wanting his rightful place, getting credit for his part in the deal.
"I know,"  I said.  "I didn't know how mommy and daddy were ever going to afford it, with daddy still in school, but a miracle happened, and everything worked out.  I'm so glad it did!"

So, that was my long and unexpectedly blessed weekend.  I'm still praying about the situation that has so much concerned me.  I still have no clear direction about what to do.  However, after the weekend I just had, I'm left with no doubt that my life is being watched over, and I am greatly blessed.  God is aware of me and my needs--even my wants.  So, whatever the resolution to my problem might be, I feel confident that it will be guided by God, and blessed by His hand. 

May your Christmas season--and every day of the new year--be blessed by the same knowledge and peace!

Thursday, December 12, 2013

A Christmas Truce



A few weeks ago I resumed this blog by promising to answer questions regarding the practice of gratitude.  For a couple of weeks my posts have been related to the holidays.  This one is too, but it is also an answer to a question:

Considering that we are approaching Christmas, if you could use gratitude to create a gift for the world, what would it be? 

I would probably want everyone to experience a world-wide day of being positive and appreciative.  I wonder how it would change our lives?

What if everyone decided to spend the next 24 hours committed to doing, saying, and thinking positive, grateful thoughts?  What if we called a truce on backbiting, fault-finding, criticizing, and unkind jokes and remarks?  What if everyone spent that 24 hours looking for the good in others, overlooking faults, helping a neighbor or friend, volunteering for an hour, cleaning up someone else's mess without complaining, bringing someone a treat, saying "thank you",  letting someone else go first in traffic or at the supermarket?  I wonder how those actions would change the world and the level of happiness we all experience. While we can't create that kind of positive wave worldwide, we can practice it in our own life. We can influence our own home, friends and workplace.  
We can all find ample reasons for taking offense, finding fault, or being irritable.  But what if, for just one day, we made an effort to elevate ourselves to a higher state of awareness, love, and gratitude?  

As we make an effort to find positive ways to approach negative situations, and as we use gratitude as the focus in all we do, our world becomes a much happier place.  So, I'm going to make a bold suggestion:  for the next 24 hours think positively; refrain from criticism; find a positive way to think about some negative situation; perform some loving act of kindness; smile at someone; say thank-you every opportunity you get; look for the good in others.   It won't cure all the ills in the world, but it will make your little corner of creation a better place.  It will strengthen the true Christmas spirit, the spirit of love, in your life.  

You may be familiar with the story of the Christmas truce that occurred during World War I.  I will share with you a soldier's letter regarding that event. (Although this is a fictional letter, the author has attempted to make his account historically accurate as he relates actual events from that remarkable interlude in the fighting. I  have abbreviated some passages, to keep the story brief.)   I love this piece of history because it points out just what is possible when we choose to change our focus, act with kindness, and celebrate the good.  

The Christmas Truce     
by Aaron Shepard

                                                                                                        Christmas Day, 1914
My dear sister Janet,
It is 2:00 in the morning and most of our men are asleep in their dugouts—yet I could not sleep myself before writing to you of the wonderful events of Christmas Eve. In truth, what happened seems almost like a fairy tale, and if I hadn’t been through it myself, I would scarce believe it. Just imagine: While you and the family sang carols before the fire there in London, I did the same with enemy soldiers here on the battlefields of France!
As I wrote before, there has been little serious fighting of late. The first battles of the war left so many dead that both sides have held back until replacements could come from home. So we have mostly stayed in our trenches and waited.
But what a terrible waiting it has been! Knowing that any moment an artillery shell might land and explode beside us in the trench, killing or maiming several men. And in daylight not daring to lift our heads above ground, for fear of a sniper’s bullet.
And the rain—it has fallen almost daily. Of course, it collects right in our trenches, where we must bail it out with pots and pans. And with the rain has come mud—a good foot or more deep. It splatters and cakes everything, and constantly sucks at our boots. One new recruit got his feet stuck in it, and then his hands too when he tried to get out....
Through all this, we couldn’t help feeling curious about the German soldiers across the way. After all, they faced the same dangers we did, and slogged about in the same muck. What’s more, their first trench was only 50 yards from ours. Between us lay No Man’s Land, bordered on both sides by barbed wire—yet they were close enough we sometimes heard their voices.
Of course, we hated them when they killed our friends. But other times, we joked about them and almost felt we had something in common. And now it seems they felt the same.
Just yesterday morning—Christmas Eve Day—we had our first good freeze. Cold as we were, we welcomed it, because at least the mud froze solid. Everything was tinged white with frost, while a bright sun shone over all. Perfect Christmas weather.
During the day, there was little shelling or rifle fire from either side. And as darkness fell on our Christmas Eve, the shooting stopped entirely. Our first complete silence in months! We hoped it might promise a peaceful holiday, but we didn’t count on it. We’d been told the Germans might attack and try to catch us off guard.
I went to the dugout to rest, and lying on my cot, I must have drifted asleep. All at once my friend John was shaking me awake, saying, “Come and see! See what the Germans are doing!” I grabbed my rifle, stumbled out into the trench, and stuck my head cautiously above the sandbags.
I never hope to see a stranger and more lovely sight. Clusters of tiny lights were shining all along the German line, left and right as far as the eye could see.
“What is it?” I asked in bewilderment, and John answered, “Christmas trees!”
And so it was. The Germans had placed Christmas trees in front of their trenches, lit by candle or lantern like beacons of good will.
And then we heard their voices raised in song.
Stille nacht, heilige nacht . . . .
This carol may not yet be familiar to us in Britain, but John knew it and translated: “Silent night, holy night.” I’ve never heard one lovelier—or more meaningful, in that quiet, clear night, its dark softened by a first-quarter moon.
When the song finished, the men in our trenches applauded. Yes, British soldiers applauding Germans! Then one of our own men started singing, and we all joined in.
The first Nowell, the angel did say . . . .
In truth, we sounded not nearly as good as the Germans, with their fine harmonies. But they responded with enthusiastic applause of their own and then began another.
O Tannenbaum, o Tannenbaum . . . .
Then we replied.
O come all ye faithful . . . .
But this time they joined in, singing the same words in Latin.
Adeste fideles . . . .
British and German harmonizing across No Man’s Land! I would have thought nothing could be more amazing—but what came next was more so.
“English, come over!” we heard one of them shout. “You no shoot, we no shoot.”
There in the trenches, we looked at each other in bewilderment. Then one of us shouted jokingly, “You come over here.”
To our astonishment, we saw two figures rise from the trench, climb over their barbed wire, and advance unprotected across No Man’s Land. One of them called, “Send officer to talk.”
I saw one of our men lift his rifle to the ready, and no doubt others did the same—but our captain called out, “Hold your fire.” Then he climbed out and went to meet the Germans halfway. We heard them talking, and a few minutes later, the captain came back with a German cigar in his mouth!
“We’ve agreed there will be no shooting before midnight tomorrow,” he announced. “But sentries are to remain on duty, and the rest of you, stay alert.”
Across the way, we could make out groups of two or three men starting out of trenches and coming toward us. Then some of us were climbing out too, and in minutes more, there we were in No Man’s Land, over a hundred soldiers and officers of each side, shaking hands with men we’d been trying to kill just hours earlier!
Before long a bonfire was built, and around it we mingled—British khaki and German grey. I must say, the Germans were the better dressed, with fresh uniforms for the holiday....
Even those who could not converse could still exchange gifts—our cigarettes for their cigars, our tea for their coffee, our corned beef for their sausage. Badges and buttons from uniforms changed owners, and one of our lads walked off with the infamous spiked helmet! I myself traded a jackknife for a leather equipment belt—a fine souvenir to show when I get home.
Newspapers too changed hands, and the Germans howled with laughter at ours. They assured us that France was finished and Russia nearly beaten too. We told them that was nonsense, and one of them said, “Well, you believe your newspapers and we’ll believe ours.”
Clearly they are lied to—yet after meeting these men, I wonder how truthful our own newspapers have been. These are not the “savage barbarians” we’ve read so much about. They are men with homes and families, hopes and fears, principles and, yes, love of country. In other words, men like ourselves. Why are we led to believe otherwise?
As it grew late, a few more songs were traded around the fire, and then all joined in for—I am not lying to you—“Auld Lang Syne.” Then we parted with promises to meet again tomorrow, and even some talk of a football match.
I was just starting back to the trenches when an older German clutched my arm. “My God,” he said, “why cannot we have peace and all go home?”
I told him gently, “That you must ask your emperor.”
He looked at me then, searchingly. “Perhaps, my friend. But also we must ask our hearts.”
And so, dear sister, tell me, has there ever been such a Christmas Eve in all history? And what does it all mean, this impossible befriending of enemies?
For the fighting here, of course, it means regrettably little. Decent fellows those soldiers may be, but they follow orders and we do the same. Besides, we are here to stop their army and send it home, and never could we shirk that duty.
Still, one cannot help imagine what would happen if the spirit shown here were caught by the nations of the world. Of course, disputes must always arise. But what if our leaders were to offer well wishes in place of warnings? Songs in place of slurs? Presents in place of reprisals? Would not all war end at once?
All nations say they want peace. Yet on this Christmas morning, I wonder if we want it quite enough.
                Your Loving Brother
                 Tom



Let there be peace on earth, and gratitude in our hearts.  The Christmas Truce of 1914 reminds us that goodwill is possible; that there are good people everywhere, and we are all pretty much the same in our desires.  We all want to be respected, appreciated, cared for, and understood.  These are gifts we can all give to one another during this Christmas season, and--if we are wise--always.



The Christmas Truce was printed in Australia’s School Magazine, Apr. 2001.  (Copyright © 2001, 2003 by Aaron Shepard. May be freely copied and shared for any noncommercial purpose.)